Misunderstanding

Have you ever typed something and wondered why people react the way they do?

I have been totally confused by responses before and this seems to happen a lot. Sometimes they elicited such strong feelings that I have to take time and figure out what and why it is going wrong. Plus, women are emotional creatures (so I have been accused of) which means the likelihood of miscommunication is probably high.

Communicating online can be complicated because typing lacks the emotion behind the words being typed. You can't show sarcasm, anger, or love in the simple strokes of the keyboard. Sometimes icons can help but who has a pocketful of those when you need one.


So, how do you straighten out a misunderstanding of communication?

I guess the best advice I can give you is to not (I am not following my own advice right now) run away from the problem and work it out by simplifying the conversation. Start from the beginning and make sure both parties are on the same page and seem to understand each other before proceeding. However, even if you sort out the conversation. It doesn't mean you will always see eye to eye.

I can't promise 100% success but 88% of the time the problem will work its way out and everyone will be all ~smiles~

Good Luck~ I hope your communication never ends in misunderstanding....

Christmas List

This year I am writing Santa and asking to see some improvements to the chat site. Now I didn't sit on Santa's lap and ask him personally for this gift but I have been really, really nice and I hope Santa will bring me this special gift. I did ask the Admin in a strongly worded letter but so far I haven't seen any of the things I asked for so I am trusting my list to the spirit of Christmas...because I am not sure what will be required of me to get these things... ( I will post my letter to Admin in another post.)

Offical Chat Business

(Sent to Admin in September)


Hey Admin,

I told Kellywelly I would write you a strongly worded note demanding a few things so here it goes.

I know you are the administrator of the chat site and I believe your duty is to make sure everything runs smoothly for your clientele. I am aware that there is not a charge for these services you provide but as a fine business man you should appreciate the pride one gets through running a properly serviced product. I am requesting on behalf of the fellow chatters a few changes that will make our time more enjoyable and with happy people you get less hate. I am sure you do not want your chat site to be one of hate.

The first change requested would be adding more color choices. The expanding of the color palette will thoroughly enhance the look of the website thus increasing its value. I would also like to suggest effects such as blending and sparkles. No room can be complete without a rainbow color for those who cannot make a decision on what color they want. Kelly just needs to find her own color that doesn't blind us all (magenta is harsh).

Other change would be the choice of different fonts, I believe one or two more would be all that is required to make writing to others just one step happier. I know you agree that happy people are less likely to cause problems.

Another suggestion, renaming some of the other rooms. I have seen very few people flocking to the kitchen. Most rooms stay empty, almost abandoned, because of the name of the room. If we had a fun name like, Party Central or Fantasy Adult Chat, I am sure the lobby would clear out a bit and those rooms would be hopping. You must agree that more physical activity is important.

The final change requested is power to the people, the ability for chatters to ban creeps when Mods are away. I am not suggesting a full day ban, just a time out. The room would have to agree. Something like if there are 213 people in a room and certain percentage of the chatters put a person on ignore, then the bad chatter would get a timeout for a bit. I know the last one is a bit out there but it can be frustrating between Mod shifts. I would just make sure Mods can't get timed out. No one wants a crowd after them.

This was my strongly worded (wordy perhaps) note. I have given up on the ass icon so I did not add it to the request list. I am not expecting you to actually do any of these things I requested but I just wanted to be heard. I love what you created and you have some pretty awesome things to offer. Do not work too hard and always remember you get to make the decisions and that is the hardest part of the job.

A fellow chatter,

Miss Cherry Cola

Score!

Well, I am pretty sure by now everyone knows I am a huge sports fan. I have loved sports every since I was a wee little cherry. I love football, soccer, hockey, baseball and just about any redneck sport. My dad use to drag me around to all the games.

My favorite football team is the Minnesota Vikings and I will warn you I am a pretty serious fan. I am not sure I can be friends with a packer fan so don't mention that if your pom poms swing that way. I am super excited about the new sports room in chat even if the only sport I have really seen is bikini pudding wrestling...oh well, you gotta start somewhere. Now, if I can only get a Playhouse, Playroom, or Playground....we will see.

I played softball, tennis, volleyball, and a little soccer. I was also a cheerleader and a mat-maid so I was into tumbling and playing on the mats. I took a little martial arts as well. I would have to stay my favorite sport now is just running...if you consider running alone a sport! Speaking of run, it looks like this cold rain is perfect for a long jog to the park. Have a great sporty day!!!!

Break Down!

So, do you think the collapse of the chat room is a trick or a treat?

I have really had a busy weekend. When I decided to pop into chat, I noticed it was not working. I do miss the banter but I have had some time to do things I enjoy. I am watching my Vikings play and I can only cheer and hope for a good game.

Yesterday, I decided to take some pictures of my sketchbook and I created a new blog. I picked up a book I was reading and finally finished it. I have had enough parties and dress up this weekend.

I went for a long moonlit run to the park and spent a lot of time at the top of the slide watching the clouds race by...and thinking about life. I wonder how my favorite people on chat are spending their time offline. ~Smiles~

Enjoy your time...Spooky Spectacular Spirits~

Whispers

I usually do not talk in a private chat with people I do not know. I had a person that I did not know start chatting me up and he was rather witty. I decided to chat back. We had a nice conversation. He told me he thought I was stuck up because I never responded when he used different nicks. This got me thinking. I guess ignoring people does come across as a little rude. I guess that I should acknowledge people. I am going to try to work on this. I do not know if I will succeed but I think it is work the effort. If you message me in private chat with more than just "hi", I will either respond or ask you to chat upstairs in the main lobby. I can't spend all my time down under! I like chatting with lots of people. I do have a special someone that I like chatting and will drop the main conversation for but that is my obsession.

Little Devil

I finally added a second picture to my chatting.com profile page. I had to find a picture that was small and I wanted something that was animated. I picked a cute little picture of a devil and turns. I thought it was adorable. Of course, people said it looked nothing like a devil. Oh well, my non-devil-looking picture is only there to please me so thanks for caring!