Misunderstanding

Have you ever typed something and wondered why people react the way they do?

I have been totally confused by responses before and this seems to happen a lot. Sometimes they elicited such strong feelings that I have to take time and figure out what and why it is going wrong. Plus, women are emotional creatures (so I have been accused of) which means the likelihood of miscommunication is probably high.

Communicating online can be complicated because typing lacks the emotion behind the words being typed. You can't show sarcasm, anger, or love in the simple strokes of the keyboard. Sometimes icons can help but who has a pocketful of those when you need one.


So, how do you straighten out a misunderstanding of communication?

I guess the best advice I can give you is to not (I am not following my own advice right now) run away from the problem and work it out by simplifying the conversation. Start from the beginning and make sure both parties are on the same page and seem to understand each other before proceeding. However, even if you sort out the conversation. It doesn't mean you will always see eye to eye.

I can't promise 100% success but 88% of the time the problem will work its way out and everyone will be all ~smiles~

Good Luck~ I hope your communication never ends in misunderstanding....

Christmas List

This year I am writing Santa and asking to see some improvements to the chat site. Now I didn't sit on Santa's lap and ask him personally for this gift but I have been really, really nice and I hope Santa will bring me this special gift. I did ask the Admin in a strongly worded letter but so far I haven't seen any of the things I asked for so I am trusting my list to the spirit of Christmas...because I am not sure what will be required of me to get these things... ( I will post my letter to Admin in another post.)

Offical Chat Business

(Sent to Admin in September)


Hey Admin,

I told Kellywelly I would write you a strongly worded note demanding a few things so here it goes.

I know you are the administrator of the chat site and I believe your duty is to make sure everything runs smoothly for your clientele. I am aware that there is not a charge for these services you provide but as a fine business man you should appreciate the pride one gets through running a properly serviced product. I am requesting on behalf of the fellow chatters a few changes that will make our time more enjoyable and with happy people you get less hate. I am sure you do not want your chat site to be one of hate.

The first change requested would be adding more color choices. The expanding of the color palette will thoroughly enhance the look of the website thus increasing its value. I would also like to suggest effects such as blending and sparkles. No room can be complete without a rainbow color for those who cannot make a decision on what color they want. Kelly just needs to find her own color that doesn't blind us all (magenta is harsh).

Other change would be the choice of different fonts, I believe one or two more would be all that is required to make writing to others just one step happier. I know you agree that happy people are less likely to cause problems.

Another suggestion, renaming some of the other rooms. I have seen very few people flocking to the kitchen. Most rooms stay empty, almost abandoned, because of the name of the room. If we had a fun name like, Party Central or Fantasy Adult Chat, I am sure the lobby would clear out a bit and those rooms would be hopping. You must agree that more physical activity is important.

The final change requested is power to the people, the ability for chatters to ban creeps when Mods are away. I am not suggesting a full day ban, just a time out. The room would have to agree. Something like if there are 213 people in a room and certain percentage of the chatters put a person on ignore, then the bad chatter would get a timeout for a bit. I know the last one is a bit out there but it can be frustrating between Mod shifts. I would just make sure Mods can't get timed out. No one wants a crowd after them.

This was my strongly worded (wordy perhaps) note. I have given up on the ass icon so I did not add it to the request list. I am not expecting you to actually do any of these things I requested but I just wanted to be heard. I love what you created and you have some pretty awesome things to offer. Do not work too hard and always remember you get to make the decisions and that is the hardest part of the job.

A fellow chatter,

Miss Cherry Cola

Score!

Well, I am pretty sure by now everyone knows I am a huge sports fan. I have loved sports every since I was a wee little cherry. I love football, soccer, hockey, baseball and just about any redneck sport. My dad use to drag me around to all the games.

My favorite football team is the Minnesota Vikings and I will warn you I am a pretty serious fan. I am not sure I can be friends with a packer fan so don't mention that if your pom poms swing that way. I am super excited about the new sports room in chat even if the only sport I have really seen is bikini pudding wrestling...oh well, you gotta start somewhere. Now, if I can only get a Playhouse, Playroom, or Playground....we will see.

I played softball, tennis, volleyball, and a little soccer. I was also a cheerleader and a mat-maid so I was into tumbling and playing on the mats. I took a little martial arts as well. I would have to stay my favorite sport now is just running...if you consider running alone a sport! Speaking of run, it looks like this cold rain is perfect for a long jog to the park. Have a great sporty day!!!!

Break Down!

So, do you think the collapse of the chat room is a trick or a treat?

I have really had a busy weekend. When I decided to pop into chat, I noticed it was not working. I do miss the banter but I have had some time to do things I enjoy. I am watching my Vikings play and I can only cheer and hope for a good game.

Yesterday, I decided to take some pictures of my sketchbook and I created a new blog. I picked up a book I was reading and finally finished it. I have had enough parties and dress up this weekend.

I went for a long moonlit run to the park and spent a lot of time at the top of the slide watching the clouds race by...and thinking about life. I wonder how my favorite people on chat are spending their time offline. ~Smiles~

Enjoy your time...Spooky Spectacular Spirits~

Whispers

I usually do not talk in a private chat with people I do not know. I had a person that I did not know start chatting me up and he was rather witty. I decided to chat back. We had a nice conversation. He told me he thought I was stuck up because I never responded when he used different nicks. This got me thinking. I guess ignoring people does come across as a little rude. I guess that I should acknowledge people. I am going to try to work on this. I do not know if I will succeed but I think it is work the effort. If you message me in private chat with more than just "hi", I will either respond or ask you to chat upstairs in the main lobby. I can't spend all my time down under! I like chatting with lots of people. I do have a special someone that I like chatting and will drop the main conversation for but that is my obsession.

Little Devil

I finally added a second picture to my chatting.com profile page. I had to find a picture that was small and I wanted something that was animated. I picked a cute little picture of a devil and turns. I thought it was adorable. Of course, people said it looked nothing like a devil. Oh well, my non-devil-looking picture is only there to please me so thanks for caring!

Freezing

I have noticed a lot of people complaining about their screens freezing when we are in the chat room. I had not really thought much about it but they were saying that the site was broken and the Admin needed to fix it. I thought this was curious but when I decided to chat at work. I found that my computer screen was freezing as well. If my computer at home doesn't freeze and mine at work does, I figure it can't be the site that is broken. It must be the server of some kind. Maybe the firewall at my work, has something to do with it or the number of people using it around lunchtime. I have checked online after the end of the day and things seem to work better. My best guess, no real proof other than observation, is that the site is working great. Let me know if I am way off base here!

Rumors

I had someone who does not usually talk to me ask me a question in private yesterday. It seems that my named was linked to a bunch of regs (2) that were dissing someone in the lobby less than a week ago. I was shocked because I am not a basher/hater. I do not know what was worse, the rumor or the person thinking it could be me doing it. There are so many impostors around but I thought people could tell who was who. I do respect the person who asked me if it was true because it makes me think that people do check facts. Of course, how can you tell what is real or not in this world of online. I barely know if the people I talk to are anywhere near what they pretend to be. I just hate to hear people that people get upset about stuff that is said here. I hope my words have not hurt anyone. I believe there is too much real hate in the world. I will say if you are trying to whisper to me....9/10 times you will be ignored so if that is what upsets you, it is not meant to be hateful. It is just a fact and you have been forewarned.

Party all the time!

Well, I guess I have heard, "Don't you have a real life!" one time too many. Yes, I do have a real life and thank you for being so concerned. I get up every morning on time and go to work. I have been staying late at work, sometimes as much as 3-4 hours lately completing my tasks. When, I get home I always call my mom and let her know I am still breathing. After talking to my mom, I usually like to work out so I can get recharged. I then take a shower and make something yummy to eat. I enjoy some good conversations with friends over dinner. Sometimes, I play video/board games with friends. I use to spend a lot more of my time studying for class but I am taking a semester off of school so I have some free time on my hands. Now, I could read a good book but I discovered and interactive book...called chatting and I really enjoy it. It is a way for me to have some time for myself because I haven't really had that in awhile. I can't party every night anymore so I look for a little peace. I am dating a little nowadays but mostly just eating and hanging out stuff. I guess if I found someone who I enjoyed more than chatting, you would see me online less often...

Levels of Friendship

Can you really have friends online? I think there are many levels of friendship within the online community. These of course, are just my observations.

Level 1- This is where you read a name and decided if you are going to respond. You feel nothing and do not care if you ignore the name or not. I think girls know after the first posting or definitely within the first 3, if they will give that person the time of day. Your opening line is critical. This person will never get acknowledged.

Level 2-This is where you will say hi or ask a few a/s/l questions or respond to someone doing the same. This is nothing more than causal conversation. You will not share personal things with this person or even entertain a response in a private setting. This is where most chat room chatters fall. Just exchanging cold, hallow words.

Level 3- This a person that you always acknowledge or friends of yours acknowledge (popular chatters). You spend most of your time interacting with their comments and/or shenanigans. This relationship may be love or hate. This person gets a lot of your attention and time. You will respond to comments in private settings but your answers are limited and brief. They will only know the character you play in the room and not beyond that. This is the relationship that most regular chatters have. You only know what you are told and you have to decide what you do with that information.

Level 4-This is a person who gets a lot of your attention. You have private jokes and your day is a little better when they stumble into the room. You never avoid a conversation in a private setting. You talk about things beyond the character you are playing in the room. You show who you want to be beyond that character. This is where people can get hurt. They open themselves and show a weakness and trust that other person is doing the same. You will reveal pasts hurts and future dreams but you are not dealing with someone you can actually see or feel online, which can be good or bad. You cannot hold each other but you cannot see the reaction or if they are even paying attention to you alone or five others at the same time. This is why a lot of people avoid this level. This is where online relationships take you out of the real world and you get wrapped up in the drama of the online world. I believe you have the most to lose or gain during this level and it's not like you have 88 friends in this level at once.

Level 5- This is a person that has gone past the title of friend. You are having a personal relationship that is supplemented by online chat rooms. You are exchanging emails or instant messages outside of the room. You may also be using telephone, camming or other electronic devices to maintain your relationship. This could result in a personal face to face meeting in the real world. This does not happen very often but when it does it usually is very successful.

Tell me what you think? Unless you are to shy to post an anonymous comment.

Unlucky Friday

I should be so excited to make it to the weekend but all I can do is think about how many bad things happened today. It all started with my alarm not going off. I had switched my second alarm on which goes off an hour later than I like it to. I had to catch up on emails at work instead of my super comfy awesome bed. At lunchtime, I discovered my firewall didn't block the chat site so I bounced in and right out again because people kept coming in my room and disturbing me. I had dinner plans but they got messed up so I ended up eating left-overs at home in my PJs. I settled in for a long chat night and I was met with madness. I am starting to think something happens to people on the weekends. They lose it a little. I decided to take a break and come her to vent a bit. I really do not know why I am feeling so blue right now! The plan is get off my ass and chat until I drop or smile whichever comes first.

Impostors!

I have noticed an insurgence of impostors in the chat room lately. I am not sure if they think people are so dumb that they don't know they are impostors or they really don't care because they are poking fun at someone. Sometime I think they are comical and at others I want to ignore the pesky little buggers. I have to admit they seem to have mad skills because I can barely chat in the main lobby and whisper at the same time. I am all for having fun but I have to wonder at what expense. I do have one more question. What does it mean to "bust a nut"? I guess I am innocent (don't choke on your drink) when it comes to some things!

From Muffins to Madness:Part 1

It has been really been a wild ride today (3 posts so far). I had an opportunity to be out of town this weekend. I was invited to a weekend on the party boat, which is really a group of friends fishing, swimming, drinking and basking in the sun. Now why did I turn down this sweet sounding trip?

It had a lot to do with the "friends" who had been invited. One in particular, we have a bad history together and frankly I didn't want to deal with the drama. I was really excited about being in the house alone this weekend. I picked out 3-4 books to read, bought some comfort food and planned on slacking all weekend long.

I started my alone time curled up with a nice book, something wickedly romantic. It ,of course was thrilling but not as exciting as I thought. I decided to do the very thing I was hoping to limit this weekend, my connection to the online world. UGH! Of course, I tell myself I am only going to check my email, which led to checking my status on Facebook, which led to updating my blog, which led to checking my PUB and then finally checking out the chat room and then checking into a new plan for the weekend.

From Muffins to Madness:Part 2

The day was wild ride. After convincing myself that chat is just like an interactive novel (again), I decided to just forget about everything and have a great time. I was rode hard and put away wet on Friday but it was a blast. Fun friends (wink~ some more fun than others) and good conversation (and good meaning lots of flirting).

I chatted until the wee hours of the morning and then rested and returned in the morning. I was off and on during the day. I took time to do some cleaning, laundry and swimming. Even the best of all slackers need to get some exercise.

Let me share some of my favorite things from the chatting. I got to see the Admin again. I thought I would be nice and do my usual cyber baking. I made muffins (one of my favorite comfort foods). Then "mmmmmmmmmm muffins" appeared at the end of everything written the room. This lasted for a long time. It seemed that most people enjoyed this. They were typing such things as I would like to touch your (and *mmmmmmmmm~muffins* would follow). After the muffin craze was over a few people thought I was responsible. Like I have that kind of power.

I got to chat with people I have only heard about as well. It was nice meeting some of the other regulars even though I am sure they don't know who I am.

From Muffins to Madness:Part 3

This is still a wild ride. There were a lot of good things about my slacker chat weekend but there was also things that were not so great. I don't know how people can chat like I did this weekend and not be affected. I was people deprived being home alone, sleep deprived (running on less than 4 hours of sleep) and maybe even sense deprived (holding a personal chat record with myself).

Whatever it was, it took me to a few low place. I was doing the usual chat. I was flirting a little but really nothing compared to the previous night. Caution: High School Drama ahead:

I got between a so-called chat couple. The guy started chatting me up and the girl got extremely jealous or was pretending to be and then it turned real, really fast. I become the bitch whore slut who is always taking other peoples bfs. The guy asked me if he should be allowed to talk to me and his gf in a public place. I of course said, yes because all we were doing was chatting in full view of everyone. It wasn't like there was anything happening. I had no idea this guy had any attachments to girls in the room and his talking to me was in no way my fault unless I am faulted for responding. I do not ask guys if they are in a committed relationship when I am just saying hey hi. I believe gfs should trust their guys and if they are proven to be jerks then break up. This was not like I knew they were a couple and I was trying to "get" him. She was just mad because he was paying me some attention instead of her.

Now, please know this stuff doesn't usually get to me but it is very close to the bad drama I was trying to avoid in real life. In the middle of this high school drama, I lost it. It was the madness of the day and the silence of the house. I stood among a room full of familiar strangers and no one was there for me. No one had my back. Fighting back tears, at the hate spinning around the room and the hurt and anger pulsing through me...I paused and made a choice. I wasn't going to let this be my end to chat.

I searched for just one friendly face and in that moment, I needed that more than anything and without it I would have been truly lost. I just need this time to get back on the horse, and gather my weapon of choice. I am not sure if anyone knew how those moments affected me or really cared but I hate to admit there is something real about this fake world of chat. I ended the day in the wee hours of the morning after several more exciting and crazy things happened but this adventure is already 3 posts. There is still one more day but I am trying to be less of a slacker.

The Hunt

I had an interesting conversation today about men and women. A fellow chatter claimed that women have all the power. What do you think? Do women run everything? On the surface, I would say he was completely wrong because men are still in charge of a lot of things. They make better wages and get promoted more often. It seems like to me that being the head of something make you more powerful than not . I do not think we were talking about the same kind of power. It is true that woman seem to have a lot of men chasing them on chat sites but if this means they are more powerful, then the only people to blame are men. How can I blame men? Easy enough...they are doing the chasing. Women know what men want is something they have and that is enough to shift the power balance. I could go into more detail but but I will save that for another chat room conversation. I think in the end, women need men to love, provide and protect them. I am not saying that this cannot be done be done without men but simply it is better when they are there. If men stopped and ignored women, then things would look differently. The girls would have to chase. That actually sounds fun...maybe I will spend some time chasing some guys =P

You are awesome!

I found this article the other day and it really made me smile. Would you pay to have someone call you every day and tell you that you are awesome? It is always great to hear that someone thinks you are awesome. I think I will see if it makes a difference in the way people act or respond to me if I tell them that they are awesome. Do you think that is why I come into chat everyday? I guess I would have to see. I probably should not experiment on people without their permission so let me know if you want to be my little science experiment. C'mon you know you are awesome! Let me prove it to you...

Swinging

It is always difficult to swing into a new routine. Unfortunately, summer vacation is over and it's time to head back to school. Instead of greeting the sunrise with a goodnight kiss, I am flipping off the damn alarm clock and cursing the audacity of the freaking thing to even peek into my much needed slumber. I am taking showers in a half vegetative state and sometime wash my hair twice because I'm dozing. It is a wonder that I can dress properly for work. I get my bounce back in my step an hour or so later. I can keep it going but I have been losing steam at lot earlier in the day. It won't take long before I am back to my 100% perkilicious self!

What Happened?

I guess chatting is losing its magical feeling and feeling more like a train wreck. I know people can be jerks but that is why there is an ignore feature. I guess I have a strong since of things being fair and it is really hard to see some people get to be total jerks because they know someone with power. I am pretty sure I can take a joke but this has just upset me beyond what I know. I look back on all those that warned me that this type of thing could happen and then I witnessed it myself. I watched people see something wrong and just laugh. How sad....and worst of all I let something so unreal as a site bring unsettling feelings to my very real world. I lay down tonight not at all my usual self...but a shell of what I once was...but only for a bit....this as everything does...will pass.

Nobody's Home

I found a really cool feature about the chat room. If you have your name registered, you can leave messages for other registered chatters when they are logged off or just ignoring you. There are few chatters that just say bye and poof they are gone. I wonder if they know we leave a trail of good nights and take cares in their dust trail. I always feel bad when I miss someone I wanted to say bye for now to but a very brilliant person suggested I use the PUB (public message board). I have made a point to try to leave at least one message there each time I am in chat. I like to use crazy titles for my posts. I figure the weirder the title the more interested you will be in the content. Happy PUBBING~

The Hater

The other day I encountered an interesting chatter. Apparently, I annoy people and this chatter wanted me to know exactly how much I annoyed him/her. What a revelation! Me? Annoying?

I have never considered myself someone who got on someone's nerves. At first I thought this chatter might be jealous of me, but I should be open to the fact that I can't please everyone and there are people that hate for very little reason. I guess I would have understood better if I had actually done something or even had spoken with this person before but when a complete stranger starts spouting hate. It takes you back a little.

I was actually looking for a good fight. I deal with a lot of mean girls and I was hoping to go toe to toe with this chatter but to my disappointment, it was a hate and ditch situation. Oh well, maybe next time!

Crazy Busy

I hate when real life interferes with the time I can spend with the cool people in chat and a certain chatter that always makes me smile.

I know that sounds very strange but I enjoy the time I can just relax and escape into a the chatting world. It doesn't matter what I am wearing.

I just wrap up in a warm blanket and type away in my bed. I guess the part I love the most is that I am away from my crazy roommates in a very private...only for me moment.

What I Do?

Today I was asked what I do. A simple replay is that I go to school. I am teacher so do not hold that against me. I will probably misspell most of the things I write because I totally suck at that subject (should take stock in spell-checkers). My vocabulary is very extensive but I can't spell half the things I can say so I am always having to find other smaller words to type in chat. I guess that is my biggest obstacle in communication.

I graduated from college about two years ago with a Bachelors of Science in Elementary Education. I love teaching all the subjects but science is my favorite. I started my masters program right after I graduated college and I am working on a degree in Curriculum and Instruction~Science Content. In other words, when I grow up I want to be a science teacher. Currently I am teaching middle school science but I want the degree to back it up.

What a Day!

I am a little bummed today. It has been a really exhausting day physically and emotionally.

I came to chat to relax and let some steam off but today hasn't been much fun. I feel like I am having to defend my writing a lot. Some of it is good but most is not. I guess I should not have shared my blogs with everyone. I just thought it would be a good way for people to understand who I am.

I guess I am realizing that it is more emotional than I ever imagined. I am not sure how I feel about putting the real me out there in the online world to be a target for criticism. I guess I am upset with myself most of all for feeling upset. I have always been taught that tears are a sign of weakness. I am hoping to find my smile soon.

Couples

I have decided that there is a certain chemistry between the regular chatters and the others.

I do not think I am a regular chatter but I would love to be apart of this world.

The regulars are always talking to each other and this constant flow chat banter is a kind of dialog that makes the room really move and become magical.

I am still trying to figure how people are connected. I know it can be dangerous to flirt with someone that has a girlfriend/boyfriend amongst the regular crowd. I have already been call a lot of names in my private messages. There have been warnings to stay away from so and so because he is taken. I really did not think I was trying to take anyone but I know I am friendly and maybe somehow I crossed a line.

It is not always easy to figure out which two are actually together. They could all be flirting. I hate to become between a couple because I am one who flirts a lot. I try to back off if I know two people are together. I wish people would tell me who I can and cannot flirt with. This way I would be sure not to step on any toes.

I do not know why I try so hard to be nice. I guess it is because I have seen how places like these have messed people up. I have to admit it would be nice to have an online boytoy to act silly with, to pretend to snuggle and get lost in private chat. Seems a little selfish because I am going to be here less often when work starts but it still seems really cool.

A Firm Grasp of the Topic

Sometimes it is fun the be the bad girl in chat and that can be hard errrrr difficult to do without sounding like a total skanky-hussy-pro-slut-streetwalken-ho-whore-tramp-stutpuppy! The use of sexual innuendos is key.

This is a hard topic to grasp for some especially if they are not firm with the English language. As a tool of humor, it stands erect in the English language. However, with a limited understanding and oral skills the intended meaning may be hard to wrap your hands around and a more well- rounded explaination will be needed to fill in the holes.

And full penetration of the subject requires that the chatter take a long, hard look at the words that might have a handful of meanings and thrust them into the chat converstation that the right time so that they may satisfy the other chatters.

This can be a rigorous process that requires a slow build-up of fluid phrases expertly inserted into the conversation and eventually incresing more and more until it flows quickly to the point of the intended sexual meaning comes to a climax. It is always more pleasing when no one sees it coming, often by entering the mind through the rear.

Of course, use this method in moderation so that conversation does not get to hard to follow and remember an important point for chatting is to let loose and have a little fun!

My Ideal Boyfriend List

I am convinced that the ideal man does not exist but I am willing to settle for a good chuck of qualities on my list.

1. He has to love his job~ I don't think I could stand listening to how much he hates going to work everyday.

2. He has to be the man~ I want someone to take out the garbage, care for the lawn, and squash the bugs and in return I want to be the one who cooks, cleans and takes care of the man. I get a lot of flack from this one from my girl friends but I like the idea of having one true boss.

3. He has to be sensible with his money~ I am into saving and investing. I have an excellent credit score and I would hope for the same from him. He doesn't have to make more than I do but his head should be in the game.

4. He has to make me laugh~ I admire wit more than anything. I treasure gut wrenching slide splitting almost peeing on the floor laughter.

5. He has to love to chat~ We should be able to talk about anything from politics to bed tricks and nothing should be off limits. I truly believe lack of communication is the reason divorce is so high. People will talk to strangers about what bothers them before a spouse.

6. He has to love his crazy family~ I may not agree with my family but I love them to death. I moved 1300 miles away from my entire family to go to school. I still call my mom 3-4 times a week. I think family is important but there is a line between living your own life and loving your family without it becoming living the life your family wants you to live. If I listened to my family, I would be married with 3.5 kids already! WOW...scary place.

7. He has to be active. I love watching and participating in sports. I love to to stay active and work out, especially running to keep in shape and I am looking for someone to keep up with me.

8. He has to adore putting his hands on me. He has to want to feel, explore, dominate, capture, caress, and relish my body as much as I do his behind closed doors and outside occasionally hold my hand, open a door, or remove a rebellious strand of hair without being asked. I think a strong physical relationship is important but if the other things are there this will come naturally so it is on of the last things on my list.

I think the first step to finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is knowing what you want. I have dated enough now to know the things that are important to me. I am not looking to fall in love right now...I am just working on my own personal goals and celebrating being single so do not try and fix me up.....lol

Chat Topics: Life Goals

Finding something to talk about can be the difference between having fun or being bored.

Sometimes just blurting out random things actually work but when in doubt go for the tried and true.

These might be a little boring but they might spark some sort of conversation.

Try a few life goal topics:


1.If you could travel anywhere, where would it be?
2. List the top 5 places you’d like to travel to.
3. What are you passionate about?
4. List the top 5 things you’d like to accomplish before you die.
5. Who is the most important person in the world to you?
6. What’s your dream job and why?
7. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Do you have a plan?
8. If you were marooned on a desert island, what 3 things would you take?
9. Describe yourself using 5 words.
10. What’s the craziest thing you’ve done?
11. What’s the funniest thing you’ve done?
12. What are 3 things you’ve never done, but you would like to try?

Finding the Balance

The chat environment gives the user a lot of control, something that is difficult to have in the real world. I can decide how much of myself I want to share with someone and if a conversation gets too intense, I can just leave. I could never do that in the real world without making myself feel bad or uncomfortable. I guess, at times, I forget that there is a real person on the other side of the keyboard. How much of this is real and how much is just playing games? How much of a real relationship can you have in a not so real place? I am just left with questions but I am still searching for the balance in the world of chat.

Can you hear me now?

Sometimes people will hound you for personal information in a chat room. There are somethings I do not mind telling people. I will do the whole A/S/L thingy. I will even tell them my first name is Christie. I do not mind people using my real name in a chat room because "HELLO" it is my name. I just find that Cherry is easier to spell and there is nothing more annoying than someone who misspells your name over and over again.

If you still have problems with someone asking for information like your phone number here is an easy solution. Give it to them~ most people know I live nearWashington, D.C. so give them my 202-452-7468 number. This of course is a number to the rejection hot-line and if you have never heard of it then you should google search it. It is pretty hilarious. They have numbers for just about anywhere in the USA. The number goes to a recorded message telling the person that they have been rejected. I guess if you are curious enough you can give it a try. Oh, yeah 410-347-1488 is my real number so why don't ya give me a call!

Naked Friday!

One of the great things about chat is finding a room and becoming a regular. A place where you can stop by just about anytime and at least two or three people know your name.

I have not been able to find that yet in the chat rooms. I have been searching for a regular room but it seems no one stays in one place, or if they do they are not accepting new chatters. I am not giving up, so I will keep you posted if I find one.

I guess it has been a few years since I have had a regular chat room. I had a great fun there. We thought we were bad-asses and ruled the room. Back in those days, you could get into yahoo using back-doors and we only told the other regulars how to do that. You could enter a room even if it was full. You could also bring more than one of your own ids in at a time.

I am not sure how it caught on but we would all bring in a "naked" ids every Friday so for example I would be "Nekkid Cherrycolagal_4u2" or whatever ID sounded good at the time. The room would have 10-20 naked people in it and we would all be running around like it wall a full out orgy or something, with sexual innuendos slamming hard against each other. What fun those days were. I catch myself telling wishing people a "Happy Naked Friday" and then remembering they have no clue what that is, oh well...maybe I will just have to start that tradition in a new room...

The Wind

I am sure you can tell by now that I really like anime pictures. I saw this one and really liked it. The winds are howling outside right now and this picture really summed up my mood today. I thought I might just post it with little comment. Enjoy!

Hey HI

When I first starting coming to chat rooms, I was too afraid to even type hello. I sat back and watch everyone type. It took awhile to get up enough nerve to actually type, "HELLO" and then silence. It was like I had not even typed a word. I noticed that the regulars where hee hawing and having a grand ol' time but they did not include any newbies. I finally got tired of just watching so I started typing for the sake of typing. I ignored their rudeness and typed liked they were talking to me. I guess I seemed a little psycho but hey...it worked. I would say hi to another newbies and soon we would be having a conversation that in some cases, overshawdowed the regulars.

I really get tired of the hate online and maybe that is why I try to always be nice. I make a rule never to ignore someone unless they are totally out of line, which doesn't happend as much as you would think. You might notice that I try to say hey hi to everyone that chats and on a slow day to everyone that comes into the room (that can get annoying fast). I just do not want anyone to feel like I did when I first started to get my chat on...

Dancing with the tongue

I think getting to know someone is like a choreographed dance. You take turns asking questions until the words themselves turn into a rhythm. I love this part. I do not mind answering questions. I just like to know I have a partner in this and that I am not the only one doing all the answering. So please, do not make me a soloist. Tag you are it!!

The Best First Line

When chatting, you really only have one chance to get someone's attention. That first line is so important.

Do not waste your time with the whole a/s/l thangy! If they want you to know, it will be posted in their profile. If not, ease the questions into the conversation.

I am looking for a stimulating conversation but you have to have the words to back it up. I know that may be hard errrrr difficult for some but I am really looking for some conversational chemistry.

Leave me some sweet comments and let me know what a good first line would be....extra credit will be given for creativity!

Microphones

I have noticed that some chat rooms have people that use the mic. I am not sure how I feel about this yet. Sometimes I like them and sometime I do not. There are times I put mine on mute because I cannot handle the conversation or I am rocking out to my own music and talking gets in the way. I think its funny when you are having a conversation with someone using a mic and they read everything you type aloud in the room and then they respond to it. This can really get old after awhile. So the solution to this is, talk back to them mic to mic.

I do not know why I just do not use mine. I guess its a big step and you cannot re-type a response or edit before sending out to the room. On mic, it is what it is. I think my problem is that I am so worried about sounding like a total dork that I have forgotten that it is meant to be fun. So, I sit there listening to the people on the mic and wishing I would just push that little green talk button. I just seem to talk myself out of it every time I feel like joining in.

My goal is to actually say more than three words in a room. I know I will do it. I did say goodbye as I left a room the other day. Who knows before long I might be one of those mic hogs that everyone puts on ignore? A girl and dream can't she?

Your Real Picture

I have noticed that most guys will ask you for picture. I guess the answer is when will he ask. I can pretty much decided if I am going to talk to someone based on when they ask.

If the first thing they say to me is ASL, then I might not even respond. I have that stuff on my profile. I figure if they really want to know they can check it out. Sometimes I post an ANIME picture instead of a real one for several reasons.

When you put up a real one you get two responses, first they tell everyone in the lobby that they think you are really hot and then you get and bunch of unwanted attention from people that are only interested in chatting up a pretty girl or the second response where they criticize what you look like. The second usually happens after you tell them you are not interested in them or if you ignore them. I do not know why I let people get to me but when they are talking about your own personal picture you take it personally.

With an ANIME picture, I have a little bit of a mysterious element. It also gives me a chance to see if the guy is interesting though conversation. After I chat with him for a bit, I have no problems showing my picture. I guess I respect those that do not ask more because I think they are trying to get to know the real me.

I never have a problem answering questions. I actually love it and there is no question I won't answer just be cautious and make sure you really want to know my answer.

Too Young

Last night, I starting chatting with this guy. He seemed pretty put together. I find that it is really hard errr difficult to find a decent conversation. Well, I began chatting and somewhere along the way the subject of ages comes up and we do the whole ASL thing. He tells me he is 18 and I am thinking, "WHOA!" that is pretty young. We have quite an age difference. We chatted for a bit and then he says, "Do you want to know how old I really am?" In that moment I knew I needed to walk away. What I don't understand is how a child could be on a site at 1 am. Don't parents know what their children are doing online or who is out here. The kid I talked too wanted to know if I would ever consider being with someone his age. I told him no and it was against the law. His words, "No one would know"

Addiction

I had an addiction for several years. I did not know I had a problem until I woke up one morning with letters from my keyboard embedded in my head from where I had fallen asleep at the computer. Yes, I know it's hard err difficult to believe but I was addicted to online chat rooms. I know there is a 12 step program for this type of addiction...take 12 steps away from the keyboard and run. Of course, the first step is always the hardest...err most difficult. I find myself tempted to go back but I am afraid I might not be able to return from that dark side. I thought blogging would be a good alternative to online chat rooms. I feel a little lost now with the web cams and voice chat. Let's get back to old fashion imagination...close your eyes and what do you see....empress of fantasy...here, online you can do anything....this is a place to talk about some adventures in the world of cyberspace

Cherry Licking 101

Can you imagine a hot, steamy day...where you can barely breathe because it is so hot outside? Well, I am there now and all I can think is to kicking back and sipping an ice cold cherry cola and slowly licking the cherries....mmmm

Vacation

Well, it is hard to believe but my vacation is coming to an end. I have to get back to the real world, sigh. I will miss all the fun and all the really great people I have met in the chat rooms. Have a great time and remember to keep smiling! I will try to check back every now and again.

Outside Looking In

When you have been away from chat for awhile, you feel like you are starting over when you finally get a chance to sneak back in.

The rooms change a lot and the people you call "friends" are gone. It seems like you spend a lot of time watching and looking for a friendly face and when you cannot find what you are looking for you change rooms.

I have not found a lot of time to chat as of late but when I do find time, I feel like I am on the outside looking in. I am starting to think it is not the chat room that has changed, but it is me.